Sunday is Father’s Day, which is traditionally one of the least attended Sundays at church all year. Churches are full on Mother’s Day, as the kids flock to church to sit with mom and make her happy. But on Father’s Day, it is normal to head to the lake with dad or enjoy some other activity, while some simply go help dad on the grill so that the food is ready when mom comes home from church.
While this issue is reflective of today’s culture, it is an indictment against fathers. When a family’s plan for Father’s Day conflicts with worship, it shows that dad has not given the spiritual leadership God expects and that corporate worship is not a priority. This probably did not start recently, but in many cases, it was mom who always took the kids to church while dad stayed home or did his own thing. So the kids think nothing of not going to church with dad on Sunday.
I am sure there are some who will respond that attending worship is not the sole marker for spiritual leadership, and I agree. However, I have never found a man be the spiritual leader of his family that did not prioritize Sunday worship with his family.
Much has been made of the fact that men hate going to church, as well as why men do not sing in church. While there are some valid points in both arguments, we must admit that the issue is one of the heart. I have experienced my share of frustration by watching men sit at church like a knot on a log, only to reproduce sons who act the same way. It is no wonder, then, that the kids have no problem not worshiping with dad Sunday morning.
My wife and I were both fortunate to be raised by men who attended church and always participated in the service, not to mention other ways they served at church. Because of ministry commitments and distance, we will not be with either one Sunday, but we will not hear any complaints. This, too, is a matter of the heart.
What are your plans for Father’s Day? They will speak to the spiritual leadership of dad. Isn’t it time we “man up” and be the spiritual leaders of our families? It is never too late to start. Let’s reclaim Father’s Day.